Disposition can describe a wide range of ways of being, yet our mind likes to simplify with a binary, positive and negative. Using this simplicity we might say that some of us tend to put our emphasis on what’s wrong. In fact, many of us do, we’ve evolved that way to keep us safe. And yet there are people who tend toward positivity. These folks are often referred to as having a ‘sunny’ disposition. Shining the light on goodness.
When we come into contact with them we are affected. They can lift our mood. When we come into contact with someone at the other end of the spectrum, someone who might be called a contrarian, they can bring us down.
I recently came into contact with a contrarian. Telling me what’s what instead of being open to my perspective. It didn’t feel good at all, I felt dismissed and discarded and ultimately unimportant.
It reminded me of a quote from Brené Brown that had a big impact on me, it had me much more mindful of what I bring to each day, and though seeing what’s wrong is important, ultimately I want to contribute more than I criticise.
“At the end of the day, at the end of the week, at the end of my life I want to be able to say that I contributed more than I criticized.” — Brené Brown
This is post 22 in 45 posts for 45 years.