Day 3 Light and Fluffy

I usually write about business and leadership and have no shortage of ideas for what to write. After yesterday’s post, I wanted to write about something light and fluffy. I struggled to publish something that I really wanted to mull over more and spend more time refining but with my commitment to do daily posts, I pressed publish with quite a bit of trepidation.

And this post doesn’t seem to want to be written either, this is my second attempt after the first draft had an “error – couldn’t be published” or some such infuriating message.

Why is it so hard to think of something light and fluffy to write about? It reminds me of when I was at an interview with Apple. They do these big group interviews, I think there were 50 of us. The one I went to a couple years earlier was less than 20 around a big table. This one had us introducing ourselves and doing small group role plays to see how we interact.

For the introduction, they asked us to say something we’re passionate about as long as it wasn’t anything to do with Apple. I wracked my brain, not sure what I’d say, it had been years since I’d been in a job interview and I’d honestly never had this question, especially not in a large group. I said something about being passionate about companies that use business as a force for good.

She asked me a second question, probing for a bit more humanness, she wanted to know what I normally do when I’m not working, like on a Saturday morning. I mumbled, “Probably walking my dogs.” She asked about my dogs, what kind they are and how many, when I said three she asked if I was an animal lover. Yes, I answered, and thought to myself, what a boring answer, have I become boring in my old age? There was only one person older than me in the group.

What I have learned about myself, not from failing to get a second interview at my second interview with Apple in two years, but from a happiness survey, is that I’m happiest when I’m outside walking my dogs. 

For over 5 years I’ve been doing a set of happiness surveys with every 6 months. It consistently shows that my happiness rating tops out when I’m walking the dogs. I didn’t realise it played such an important role in my life. But when I think about it, this is what gets me out of the house twice a day, gives me fresh air, exercise, a good dose of nature that nurtures me.

There you go, how is that for light and fluffy?


Day 30: Standing tall

I’ve been watching videos of when I was a baby. I’ve seen them before but not for at least 10 years. My mom sent them to me on DVD from Canada. Lots of me learning to walk. I look a bit like a zombie with my arms out.

A metaphor emerged from watching the film. As I fell down and got back up, there was always someone to help, my parents, my aunt, my cousin.  Sometimes I’d get back up on my own, sometimes I’d wait and look around for someone to help me up. When I was all bundled up in snow gear, I would make a bit of a game out of falling back down after being propped up. I even did a faceplant in the snow and didn’t seem to be too fussed.Jacket_Picture

It had me thinking about my life now, especially my entrepreneurial ventures. It’s all about standing up and falling down and getting back up again. What I learned from watching myself as a toddler was that help is never far away. I can use it or not, and when it’s not as easy to get back up, it’s a really good idea to let someone help me. I am getting better at this and I think it will be a theme this year, collaborating with people and being more open to the contributions of those around me. And even seeking out the support that will get me standing tall.

In conversation with a client today, I asked about what she could do to transition out of being disempowered. I loved her answer, “Straighten my back.” Just yesterday I was reaping the benefit of that, how a simple posture shift can alter one’s experience. What a remarkable gift our body is. Feeling grateful and self-loved up!